I said my final goodbye to a friend today. I do not like changing
friendships almost obsessively. There were many situations in my life when I
was reading signs that a relationship ran its cause and that it is time to file
it into memories. It was never acceptable to me to proceed on such signs. Not
soon enough at least. However, there are situations when this is unavoidable.
Such was the situation this time, Henry Strassburger passed away, today was his funeral and I am sad.
I saw Henry last time not long time ago, two, three weeks ago. When I
went to his room, he was sitting back to the door. I touched his arm to catch
his attention and through his sweater felt his strong shoulder bone but no
flesh. It frightened me. However in the future I will recall different pictures
of Henry, like the one of strong Henry during the ride across the Pitt Water with me and
my dog as passengers. It was dark and the lights on the water created a very
special almost magical atmosphere. This is how I will remember Henry.
Today was his funeral. It was moving as the situation was moving for
those who cared for Henry. I wrote about Henry in the past. He was indeed a man
of style which was so difficult for him to maintain in the recent years.
Visiting him in the nursing home was always heart breaking. Such a degradation of
his health and lifestyle. Most of the times however, he was able to be his old
self, Henry from the good times. Always generous, kind, cultured. Man of style and dignity. Many things deteriorated due to illnesses, but his taste buds were
always in good order. I often thought that I was never able to experience taste
to the extend Henry did. Today some men with whom and for whom he prepared their
Escoffier Society meals were in the church. I wonder what memories of Henry woke
up in them.
There were people who Henry met over many years. We all knew different
Henry or rather we were familiar with different parts of his persona. He was a complex
person and we have our own filters through which we see people and reality.
This means that we have different pictures or Henry in our minds and hearts. I
do not have any doubt that if we all put all our memories together a
beautiful and complex composition would emerge.
Henry loved music. We both were born in Poland Sydney
Totus Tuus was Pope John Paul II's apostolic motto. It is a Latin phrase meaning "totally thine" and expressed his personal Consecration to Mary.
